HOW TO BECOME A PERSON WHO IS CELEBRATED

I want to start this article by asking a thought provoking question. Can good news originate from the hospital? The word hospital congures up many terrifying thoughts in most minds. Themes of terrible sicknesses like cancer, aids, etc run in minds and death is a thought which is never far off from such themes. When you pass by the morgue as you visit the sick you are reminded of the terrifying end that could become of the situation. So, it may be a strange thought to believe that good news can come from the hospital. But bad experience does not always tell the whole story. The good news is that there is good news from the hospital sometimes. And that good news is almost always found in the maternity wing. There the words, “You have a beautiful son, ” or, “You have a beautiful daughter,” are first pronounced. The maternity wing is the only place in the hospital where a visit causes one’s heart to erupt with joy, more so for the father who is seeing his baby for the first time(especially if it is his first born). But the joy at the beginning of a life at the hospital is not always an enduring one in the lives of those who witness the beginning of that life and in the lives of the countless others who would be affected by it in the years to come. When people who would bring peace and joy to many are being born there are also those who would cause much pain and anguish to others being born. When Hitler was born, his mother and many who knew her rejoiced, not knowing that decades later he would become the source of great pain and misery for a lot of Jewish people and many more other people. Likewise, there have been many people whose birth was a source of joy for family and friends but marked the coming into the earth of a soul which would bring much anguish and misery to the world. Mass murderers, serial killers, robbers, gender violence perpetrators, child molesters, etc all have their births marked by joy and happiness. Even the birth of Judas Iscariot, the man who betrayed the Son of God, brought joy and happiness to his parents, family and their friends. But Jesus would later say about him, ¨It would be better for him if he had not been born¨(Mark 14:21). Some people are so evil that their death is a source of joy and relief for those who are left behind. They share the fate of the devil. In speaking about the day when he is finally chained in hell in the millenium period, the bible declares in Isaiah 14:5-7:

´The LORD has broken the rod of the wicked, the scepter of the rulers, which in anger struck down peoples with unceasing blows, and in fury subdued nations with relentless aggression. All the lands are at rest and at peace; they break into singing.´

Interestly, there was a time in the world’s history which marked the birth of a child that would grow up to impact all the lands of the earth with such rest and peace that the angels broke into singing at his birth. The name of that child is Jesus: Of His birth, the bible tells us,

´Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, ¨Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his favour rests¨´(Matthew 2:13-14).

In the year that Jesus was born there was also born, some months earlier, another child of whom the angelic host also rejoiced. He was the forerunner to the Son of God and was born to introduce Him to the world. That child´s name was John. He was born to a woman named Elizabeth, who had been barren for most of her married life. He was a miracle child, one whom nobody expected. And that miracle was initiated when God sent an angel with a promise to Zechariah the Priest, Elizabeth´s husband. Luke 1:11-17 tells us:

´…an angel of the Lord appeared to him, standing at the right side of the altar of incense. When Zechariah saw him, he was startled and was gripped with fear. But the angel said to him: “Do not be afraid, Zechariah; your prayer has been heard. Your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you are to give him the name John. He will be a joy and delight to you, and many will rejoice because of his birth, for he will be great in the sight of the Lord. He is never to take wine or other fermented drink, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit even from birth. Many of the people of Israel will he bring back to the Lord their God. And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous-to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”´

Let me pick out a few points from the above scripture which are very important concerning what we are talking about. We are told that John was not to be a person who takes alcohol. Alcohol or substance abuse has been a source of much pain and misery for many a parent. They hopelessly watch their child become alcoholic or addicted to drugs and go through the pain of watching the violent behaviour of that child. Everyday they live in fear of someone or the police knocking on their door to announce to them that their child has done someone some great harm or has done himself or herself harm. The life of a parent with an alcoholic or drug addicted child is not an easy or happy one. Proverbs 17:21 & 25 tell us:

´To have a fool for a son brings grief; there is no joy for the father of a fool. A foolish son brings grief to this father and bitterness to the one who bore him´

It is sad when your lifestyle is a source of pain for those who love you. Sometimes that person who loves you but to whom you inflict pain because of your behaviour is your spouse. You get drunk and come home to abuse her physically and verbally. And yet at the same time you expect to receive love from such a person. It is like watering a fruit tree with acid and expecting to harvest fruit from it. How can you expect good fruit from a tree you are killing? You complain that your partner no longer loves you but forget to ask yourself why. A person can only take so much abuse before they have had enough of you. So, if you want people to value and appreciate you, you have to give them a good reason to. You have to become a well from which they are able to draw joy and peace. The bible says in the scripture I mentioned above that John was going to be a joy and delight to his parents and to multitudes more. How do you become like John was? Well, you first have to stop your bad habits. However, you may be saying that you have tried many times and you are always failing. Well, this is where the power of God comes in. You have to let God help you by relying on His strength and not on your own. And acquiring strength from God begins with accepting Jesus Christ as your personal saviour. As Isaiah:12:2-3 says:

‘Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.”
With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation.’

So, now is the time to accept Jesus as your personal Saviour. Ask Him into heart right now.

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WHEN COMMON SENSE IS NOT COMMON

I find it a blatant betrayal of logic and common sense when life is built on the notion of ‘bad things happen to good people.’ True, even good people face challenges sometimes. However, even in such situations they come out on top. For, as Romans:8:28 says,

‘And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.’

In other words, God is more than capable of milking goodness out of the pain you may be going through. That means the devil disadvantages himself every time he attacks you. He will not harvest the fruit that He expected from the pain he has sown in your life. Instead, it will be God who will turn the bitter seed into sweet fruit for you. If you are genuinely a good person, one who obeys the word of the Lord, every attack you experience by the hand of the enemy will create for you a stepping stone to a greater level of life in God. That is what Psalm 91:15 means when it quotes the Lord declaring to the person who loves Him,

“He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.”

The Lord honours you with promotion into another level of spirituality every time you come out of a battle raised up against you by the enemy. You will gain a better understanding of the enemy’s tricks and how to overcome him and his tricks. This, in itself, will acquire for your life more peace and joy. Have you not read the words in Psalm 23:5-6?

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever,”

David says in this Psalm. In other words, the Lord is bent on bringing and doing good to those whose life is built in Him. This is because He is by nature a good God.

“Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him,”

Psalm 34:8 challenges us. The goodness of the Lord has another defination. It is also called His justice. God shows His goodness by giving each person what he or she deserves. The prophet Isaiah so beautifully illustrates this justice when he echoes the voice of the Lord and writes in Isaiah 3:10-11,

“Tell the righteous it will be well with them, for they will enjoy the fruit of their deeds. Woe to the wicked! Disaster is upon them! They will be paid back for what their hands have done.”

For some reason it seems easier to believe in bad things happening to a person than it is to believe in good things happening to a person. But the above scripture is telling us that the same God who punishes bad behaviour also rewards good behaviour. Should we really expect anything less than that? If one of the description of a divine being is that he should be just, why do we think otherwise when it comes to the practical application of what his works should be defined by? Should we think of God only as one who is very quick to use his hand to slap you and very unwilling to use it to hand you a lolipop(to use a childlike anology). Does not Psalm 104:27-28 tell us of the Lord’

‘These all look to you to give them their food at the proper time. When you give it to them, they gather it up; when you open your hand, they are satisfied with good things.’

If God is so good, why does it seem as if He is not so willing to hand out good things to those who ask Him? The problem lies in what I might term ‘Testimonies of contradiction.’ What do I mean by that? Well, sad to say, many people–which includes a lot of Christians–are sealed empty baskets. In other words, they are good at claiming the good things of the word of God but relactant to do what the word of God requires of them to do in order to get those things. An example is a man or woman who desires from the Lord a good marriage partner and yet is busy sleeping around or moving about with other people’s husbands, wives, boyfriends or girlfriends. Many people invoke scriptures on blessings on themselves and yet live in contradiction to what those scriptures require of them in order to be fulfilled. This is called self-deception. Interestingly, one of the favourite scriptures of those who are deceived in this way is Proverbs 12:14. This scripture tells us,

‘From the fruit of his lips a man is filled with good things as surely as the work of his hands rewards him.’

To those who are self-deceived this scripture is interpreted to mean that what matters is the confession you make and not the way you live your life. True,confession is important to faith. As the apostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians 4:13

´It is written: “I believed; therefore I have spoken.” With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak.´

But Deuteromy 29:18-19 tells us that true confession can never be divorced from devotion to God. That is what Psalm 37:4 means when it says,

´Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.´

To delight yourself in the Lord is to find joy in obeying His word. It is to live the life of the man in Psalm 1:1-3. This scripture tells us:

´Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.´

But what is this counsel of the wicked for which this scripture shows disdain? Well, it the deception of which we are talking about. The belief that you can get good things from God without having to adhere to the demands of His word. This is what the wicked believe and this is what they tell others to believe also. And in these last days they have gathered up teachers with like minds to teach them many ways of how they can live their lives using this counsel. The day has come upon us which the apostle Paul spoke of when he said in 2 Timothy 4:3-4 that there would come a day when people would not put up with the truth but will instead gather up men to teach them what they want to hear and not what they ought to hear. These customized preachers have become a very big problem in the church. There are leading many astray with their deceitful version of the word of God. And multitudes are following them into this deception. The people who follow them even present themselves as better Christians than other people. Yet their way is a perous one. Its end is disasterous. Psalm 1:6 sums up the outcome of the way they have chosen to walk in when it declares:

´ For the LORD watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish.´

Do not become a victim of this perous way they have chosen to walk in. Trust in the Lord´s way. Obey His word and it will do wonders for you.

SAYING BYE TO YOUR EX

[Isaiah:43.18-18]
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”

One of the reasons people fell to move on in life is because they fell to handle rejection. They do not realise that sometimes it is God’s will for a person to reject you. I know that that statement sounds kind of harsh, but it is true nonetheless. You see, sometimes people blindly cling on to people who will do them harm in the future. So God, in His loving-kindness, will do something that one may consider painful to separate the couple, because He knows the terrible future that awaits the relationship. Rejection is only painful when you are unaware of the godly reason for it. When you come to realise the reason why it happened you will be joyous and thankful to God for it. As the apostle Paul alludes to in 2 Corinthians 7:10, godly sorrow brings good in the end. That good thing that godly sorrow brings is a painless and peaceful future and partner. As the Psalmist testifies of the Lord in Psalm 31:19, “How great is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you, which you bestow in the sight of men on those who take refuge in you.” Therefore, it is wiser to let go of relationships that have no future, so that God may reveal a relationship that has a good future for you. May you be brave enough to let go of unfruitful relationships and spiritual enough to realise one that has a fruitful future for you. You have to realise that sometimes not realising that the the person standing right in front of you holds a fruitful future for you is a sign of a curse hovering over your life. The bible says in Jeremiah 17:6 that when a person has a curse on their life their eyes will not see the good things that the Lord has prepared for them. The previous verse gives us one of the reasons people blind themselves to the good things of God. It says people invite a curse on their lives when they operate in the flesh. In other words, when your perspective on life is driven by worldly perceptions you will never see what God has planned for your life. The wold has it’s own ways of looking at things and it judges things as good based on those perceptions. And in 1 Samuel 16:6-7 God shows us how the world judges the goodness of something or someone and how He does. Here we see how the prophet Samuel was impressed by the appearance of Eliab when God sent him to anoint a king among Jesse’s sons. However, God would not be fooled by mere appearances. We read, ‘When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the LORD’s anointed stands here before the LORD.”
But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”‘Men judge the goodness and suitability of a person by whether or not they have wealth, mansions, car, beautiful face, curvy body, etc. When you look at life the way man looks at it, you will miss the will and good things of God, but when you look at life the way God looks at it you will never miss a single thing He has stored up for you. What if the woman who will bring great joy to your life does not have the great hips you are after but has an amazing heart? What if the man who will be faithful to you all the days of your marriage is not wealthy? What would you rather have? A marriage full of material wealth and impoverished of the virtues that attract the peace and favour of God or one full peace and joy. I urge you to choose God’s way of looking at things. As Romans 12:2 declares: ‘Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is– his good, pleasing and perfect will.’ Let your mind be set on the things of God and not on the things of men. Stop thinking like man and start thinking like God.
‘”For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.
“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”‘(Isaiah 55:8-9).
After declaring this statement above the Lord goes on to declare in Isaiah 55:10-11 that his promises and purposes over your life are appointed for a day of fulfillment. Don’t make the mistake of looking at verses 8-9 and 10-11 in isolation. They are inseparable from each other. Together they reveal truth that cannot be challenged. This truth is that God will only honour promises and purposes that are borne out of His thoughts and His ways. Don’t expect showers of blessing to be poured on what you obtain by the ways men. It is a terrible thing to live without the presence and help of God in your marriage. But such a thing will and does happen when a person rejects a person sent by God and accepts one not sent by God. God will never support a marriage He did initiate. He cannot be the Omega if He is not allowed to be the Alpha. But this is what Jesus says in Matthew 19:6 concerning that which He is the Alpha of
“…what God has joined together, let not man separate.” That statement is not just mere words. It is a threat from against anyone who would dare to separate a couple brought together by God. If you oppose such a relationship you are, in effect, opposing God. And one cannot oppose God and expect to win or go unharmed. God will fight and reveal anyone who tries to break a relationship started by Him. But he will never lift a finger to defend a relationship which is not borne out of His will, no matter what man of God or prophet the person involved in the situation consults. It will be as He told Jeremiah concerning the rebellious Israelites in his time. “Do not pray for the well-being of this people.
Although they fast, I will not listen to their cry; though they offer burnt offerings and grain offerings, I will not accept them…”(Jeremiah 14:11-12). Anything you start on your own has no security, but anything God starts for you is secure in Him. You will not have to break a sweat to defend what God started for you. ‘For the battle is not yours, but God’s'(2 Chronicles 20:15).
All this shows the level of security a relationship started by God has. You can only be wise if you choose what He has prepared for you. Let God’s choice be your choice so that Isaiah 32:17-18 may be fulfilled in your life. It reads: ‘The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever.
My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.’

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DON’T TAKE OFF THE COAT OF GLORY

[John:1.45-51]
Philip found Nathanael and told him, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote– Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.”
“Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Nathanael asked. “Come and see,” said Philip.
When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, he said of him, “Here is a true Israelite, in whom there is nothing false.”
“How do you know me?” Nathanael asked. Jesus answered, “I saw you while you were still under the fig tree before Philip called you.”
Then Nathanael declared, “Rabbi, you are the Son of God; you are the King of Israel.”
Jesus said, “You believe because I told you I saw you under the fig tree. You shall see greater things than that.”
He then added, “I tell you the truth, you shall see heaven open, and the angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man.”

You cannot reinvent what God finds glory in. When you do so, you strip it of God’s glory and honour. In other words, no matter what people do or say against you, do not let go of the way of life which you have established for yourself in God. Keep on believing in love and love people. Don’t let the pain people inflict on you with their words or actions strip you of love. Don’t hate or be vengeful of anyone. Don’t hold any grudges. Walk away from situations that bring pain and shame but make sure you do so without taking bitterness with you, for it will spoil your spirit. Walk away with dignity and a good name, so that no-one will ever be justified to say you are a bad man or woman. Always remember that the devil will always attempt to put you in situations where he wants to spoil your spirit with the poison of bitterness, hatred, shame and vengefulness. His aim to strip you of God’s glory and honour. If he can’t lure you into shame, he will try to force your life into situations that bring shame on you. So, be watchful and prayerful. And continue spending time in the word so that God’s glory and honour on your life may grow more. For when you find delight in the word you will live the word. The word will make you grow in godly wisdom. You will know what to do in situations you encounter in life and will avoid shameful situations. There is glory in having the wisdom of God in your life.

[1 Samuel:12.3-5]
‘Here I stand. Testify against me in the presence of the LORD and his anointed. Whose ox have I taken? Whose donkey have I taken? Whom have I cheated? Whom have I oppressed? From whose hand have I accepted a bribe to make me shut my eyes? If I have done any of these, I will make it right.”
“You have not cheated or oppressed us,” they replied. “You have not taken anything from anyone’s hand.”
Samuel said to them, “The LORD is witness against you, and also his anointed is witness this day, that you have not found anything in my hand.” “He is witness,” they said.’

PERSONAL PASSOVER

It is Easter time and today is good friday. This season is not about eggs and bunnies. It is about what happened on Calvary and how the events of Calvary have affected our lives forever. However,those events have rays which can be seen way back in time. The bible in Exodus Chapter 12 tells us of what happened during the night of the liberation of the nation of Israel from the servitude of Egypt. The Lord told Moses to have every household in the Israelite community to slaughter a lamb and then smear its blood on the top and sides of their door frame. This was to serve as a sign for the angel of death. When he would be unleashed upon the land of Egypt to kill, he would pass by every door on which the blood of the lamb would have been smeared. He would only enter a door on which there is no blood. So, it was that among the Israelites there was no single funeral on the day that the angel of death passed through the land of Egypt. However, among the Egyptians funeral was unisome song, with every household with a dead person. This is a piture of the situation between the unsaved and the saved. Eternal death has passed by those on whose life is the blood of Jesus, our Passover Lamb. We who have believed in Jesus Christ are not going to hell, but hell is the destiny of those who have not believed in Christ. This is the reason that on this easter we should be thankful to the Lord Almighty. He has shown us great mercy by sending His Son Jesus Christ to die for us. One way we can show our gratitude is by doing God did through the cross. Just as he forgave us, so should we forgive those who have wronged us. As Colossians 3:13 declares: ‘Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.’ In other words, have a personal passover attitude for someone. Act towards them as if you were an angel who had the right to take revenge on those who have wronged you but is compelled by the blood of the lamb not to take revenge on them. Forgive, and again I say, forgive.

CAN YOU RELATE TO MY WEAKNESS?

I have a weakness I would like to share with you. Perhaps it is one which you have as well. My weakness is that I can’t function in situations where uncertainity rules. You see, I need to know where a person is taking me before I can follow. I need to know if a person will stay the course before I commit to them. I don’t like double-minded people, who say one thing today and another tomorrow. Who say ‘Yes’ today and say ‘No’ tomorrow; and ‘Yes’ the other day and ‘No’ another day. It is better for me to hear a consitent ‘No’ responses than alternating Yes and No responses. And I don’t like people who say one thing and do another. I prefer walking a sure rugged road than a smooth but foggy road. It doesn’t matter how rugged the road is as long as it is leading me to the right destination, for I know that God will take care of the obstacles I ancounter along the way. As God says in Isaiah 45:2: “I will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron.” But God never promised to go with anyone who goes the wrong direction. A road may be smooth, but if its destination is not what God has in mind for you, then it is not worth setting yourself on. A foggy road, with its smooth ride, gives the appearance of a good road going the right direction. But one does not see the pitfalls that are hidden in its way by the fog. The fog also hides the fact at the end of that road is a high cliff that plunges one into a deadly canion of failure. So, be careful of the lure of smooth-talking people, who promise you heaven on earth if you become part of their lives. Always ask a person who asks you to become part of their life what God’s vision for their life is. Never follow a man without a vision from God. And above all, know the vision that God has for you. For it is only when you know what a vision from God looks like that you will recognise when another person’s vision is from God or just from his canal mind. Remember the story of Joseph and his family(Genesis 37:2-11). Joseph’s brothers did not understand or support his dreams because they themselves never had dreams from God. But it was different with Joseph’s father, Jacob. Notice what Genesis 37:11 says: ‘His brothers were jealous of him, but his father kept the matter in mind.’ Why did Joseph’s father keep the matter in mind? It is because he himself had experienced what his son was experiencing. He himself had received a dream from above just as his son had. So, he was not prepared to dismiss his son’s dreams entirely. You need such a person in life. One who will believe and support your dream or vision even when the majority won’t believe or support it. Support does not just mean one giving money to support the project. It also means when things are tough and I feel like quiting on my dreams you don’t allow me to. You encourage me and hold my hand and walk with me in the midst of whatever it is that is threatening to destroy my dream or vision. Don’t run away when things get tough, because when you do you make things worse than they already are. When you tarry with me you ease the roughness of the journey I have to take. In fact, this is what defines what the bible means when it talks about a suitable help mate. You are never a suitable helper if you can’t play this role for your spouse or partner. Instead you are one of those of whom the Lord warns against in Micah 6:4-6 when He says to the man with a vision: “The best of them is like a brier, the most upright worse than a thorn hedge. The day of your watchmen has come, the day God visits you. Now is the time of their confusion. Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with her who lies in your embrace be careful of your words. For a son dishonors his father, a daughter rises up against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law- a man’s enemies are the members of his own household.” Some people spend more time fighting their partners than lending a hand and yet call themselves suitable helpers sent from God. And their partners spend their time wondering if they really heard from God before marrying them. May you be the kind of partner or friend over whom someone will get on their knees just to thank God for sending you into their lives. And to the visionary I say if walking alone will get you to the place of vision the Lord wants you to go, then by all means walk alone. For you are not really alone. The Lord is with you to hold your hand. Don’t be afraid to walk the lonely path if that is what it will take to get to the promised land. It is better for your journey to be uncomfortable but successful than for it to be comfortable but end in failure. But if you can find that one person who will make your journey comfortable and successful, don’t hestate to grab and tightly hold their hand. As Proverbs 4:9=12 says: ‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.’ A cord of three strands means you, your partner and God. A cord in which God is also a strand can never be broken. It is forever. That means you should marry someone who already has a personal relationship with God, someone who already knows God, someone who will be devoted to you because they are devoted to God. It has to be someone who is afraid to disrespect or cheat on you because they are afraid that God will punish them for betraying you. Marry someone you don’t have to watch over, someone over whom you won’t have to worry no matter where they go or who they are with, because they know they are accountable to God over their movements and actions. Let that person be one who is more afraid of being seen by God doing the wrong thing than of being seen by you. Marry someone who doesn’t feel the need to put a password to their phone to stop you from seeing what is there.